Bit of a long shot, because I would rate these two as not appropriate for that age range, but either A Red Heart of Memories or its sequel Past the Size of Dreaming by Nina Kiriki Hoffman might fit the living house/escaping the past/creepy things/stuck in a hole (although I think it might have been a crawl space?). I haven't read them for some years, so I'm not sure which one suits your memory better.

My review for the second one was "Adults explore the reasons that their teenage selves hid in what turned out to be a haunted house. In a lightweight fantasy/supernatural escapist reading kind of way."